Do Office Relationships Work?
Your best pal at the workplace:
An office affair is very thing today as all of us spend most of the time of the day in our office. It is quiet natural that you start to grow a feeling of dependence and something more special than just friendship. And gradually, this ends up in a strong bond between you and co-worker. When you are into an affair with someone, you will sure be willing to spend most of the hours with your loved one. In case if your love interest and your project partner is the same person, there cannot be anything better than that. There is another great advantage. If you guys have developed your relationship on the basis of friendship, you can share any kind of professional tension and other stress with the person. If you are in the same department, it is much better. Then you can get professional help from that person and that can help to grow your career in the long run. There are many controversies regarding the office affairs. There are people who say office affair should be a strict no no. It can create a lot of hazards in your life, personal as well as professional hazards. Sometimes it can create a professional rivalry and as a result, ego-clash between the two people becomes evident. But one thing is for sure. There can hardly be any better option for the matured office-goers, in case loneliness haunts their lives to make a living hell out of them.
What The Experts Say:
According to the experts, most of the office relationships start between two persons who are married to other persons. One of the reasons of such relationships is the loneliness developed in the married life. If your spouse neglects you or cannot spend quality time with you due to work pressure and on the other hand, if your colleague showers you with loads of attention and care, an affair is more likely to grow. Another reason behind these office relationships is dissatisfaction in the sexual life with the spouse. It can lead anyone to go for a cozy and passionate affair with a co-worker. But this is not always true in case of all office relationships. There are many relationships that start between two eligible bachelors and ultimately end up in marriage.
Many are against office affairs between two married or one married and one unmarried people as it can ruin other’s marriage. And if this becomes transparent to the other colleagues, the persons can hardly carry on their jobs in the same office again and this becomes like a black spot in their career. They also say that this kind of the relationships affect the woman’s life worse than her male counterparts. But tell me something, when do you think of an affair even if you are married? Obviously, when you are fed up with your married life and you have nothing to expect from the conjugal life. So, is there any reason to carry forward a relationship, which has lost its color much before? There cannot be any basis of not encouraging the relationships that have the never before freshness and that give you lots of spaces to live and breath freely. And it is a misconception that extra marital affair in the office do not have any kind of commitment and dedication.
If The Person Is Special, He/She Is Worth The Risk:
There may be some risks involved with the office relationships.
In some offices, the policies are not in favor of a work affair. This is because it can be seen to cause trouble in your professional career.
If you are planning for an affair without the knowledge of the others, be prepared for the consequences that you will have to face after the management and the higher authority come to know about it, especially when they will realize that you have been hiding it deliberately.
Office relationships often create professional conflict between two co-workers. If there is an ego clash, it can hamper your relationship.
If you are having an affair with a sub ordinate, you may have to face problems, if the person gets fired and blames you for this.
In an office relationship, before you start seeing each other, the person is there as your co-worker. And for the reason, you know the person much better. You are aware of his/her habits, likings, disliking and it helps you to know the person well. Once you find some common things between you and your colleague, you start liking each other. The person becomes special for you. You start to find the knight in shining armor in the next cubicle. The person gradually becomes a part of your existence. And once the person turns to be indispensable in your life, he is worth the risk, as he surely deserves something special.
The mystery of subconscious
Top 10 Ways Guys Mess Up Saying “I Love You” To Their Sweetie
Relationships and marriages do NOT have to be complicated. But since we are human beings, we tend to create mountains out of molehills. Let’s keep it simple and go over the top ten list for some great relationship advice for the guys:
1. Buy expensive things -- girls want feelings not things! Buying expensive things for a woman may put them in an uncomfortable position. You may not realize it but you are “buying” her love. And it is manipulative and a lot of women resent it.
2. Not giving her something that has meaning – give something that brings about great memories. For instance, I got a small artificial plant in a clay pot for my sweetheart because she did NOT have a green thumb. And She loved it! And every once in a while I would remind her to rotate the plant in the sunlight. And it made her laugh. The plant only cost me 99 cents but it brought us a lifetime of pleasant memories. You could look for 1000’s of awesome cheap ideas in mail order catalogs. If you got a little talent, how about singing a little song, writing a love note or even a short poem?
3. Buying the same thing over and over again for Valentine’s Day -- remember, Valentine’s Day is really a bonanza for retailers. Millions and millions of guys pushed by advertisements to buy chocolates and flowers on February 14th, every single year. And it sure gets a little stale and predictable after a while. Dare to be wild! Really surprise her with something unexpected and she would really appreciate! It can be a coupon good for a “night out in town” or even a voucher she can redeem that you will clean up the kitchen on some days when she doesn’t feel like doing it.
4. Not saying, “I love you” every single day -- just kidding! Every other day is fine. OK guys, I’ll be serious now. My suggestion is to pick your moments. While you do want to assure her that she still has your heart, what you REALLY want to do, is throw a teensy weensy bit doubt in it.
5. Tease and tantalize her -- just enough to vex and make her wonder if you really, really love her. And when you finally do reassure her of your heart, she will respond with intense feelings of love and companionship.
6. Be boring – oh come on, guys! You can’t bore a woman to a slow death and expect her to respond with love and passion.
7. Not putting enough thought in ways to spend quality time together -- find some activity or pastime that you both enjoy doing together. It doesn’t have to be expensive or strenuous. It can be a slow walk on the beach to visiting a theme museum downtown.
8. Not doing the little things outside of “traditional” moments – you don’t have to wait until her birthday, anniversary or Valentine’s Day to do something special for her. Remember, women are different from guys. While we might be happy watching sports or tinkering with our hobbies, women treasure moments of attention from you. It means paying attention to her and listening to what she is saying.
9. Trying to solve her problems – to me, this is one of the biggest blunders guys make. When your woman complains or talks about something that is bothering her… The reaction of most guys is to try to “fix” that problem for her. It bothers us that someone we love is in pain and it is natural for guys to “fix it” for them. But guess what? Most times, she DOESN’T want you do take care of the problem for her. She just wants you to empathize and reassure her that you love her. In short, women are not china dolls – they are fully capable of solving most of their problems on their own. Next time she is talking to you, ask yourself, is she seeking a solution from you or is does she just want your steady approval?
10. Not giving her space – give her the gift of missing her every once in a while. Go on a camping or fishing trip with your buddies for a week. How about a work related seminar? Just find a legitimate excuse to get out of the house for a few days.
Now get busy. You have things to do to create love and affection in your relationship with your sweetie…
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